JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…#NaBloPoMo – My Passions…

Last weekend, I was driving to see a friend. As I was going down the road I glanced over at the woods, and as if in a spotlight, I saw this branch sort of lounging there. Vulnerable, exposed to the elements and ignored by the majority that passed by. Truly, just a branch in the woods, right?

What I saw, and said out loud to myself in the car was, “That symbolizes perfectly how a victim of abuse feels.”

I turned around at the next possible spot, and went back and stopped to take the picture. Unfortunately, the sun had already shifted, and it wasn’t spotlighted nearly as well as when I first saw it; but you get the idea.

This photo symbolizes one of my passions – for roughly 23 years, I have been working toward a state of readiness to effectively help victims of abuse; and the last few have been an active part of a mentoring ministry.

This is just one of my passions – what are some of yours?

Have a good day, and be safe…0426151200

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…”Living Legacy”

Have you ever sat & just thought about what you want your legacy to be when you’re gone? I’ve talked about this before, I know; but what about your “Living Legacy”?

I saw something on Facebook last week and it, plus the feedback I received got me thinking: “Be somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody.” I said it was a life-goal, and some of my friends said I already do this. I was so humbled.

I guess heck with the tombstone epitaph; I’d rather live my legacy, wouldn’t you? I think I’ve already done MORE than enough to be remembered when I’m gone – both good AND bad – ha, ha!!!

But, I digress…seriously, though, what do you want YOUR “Living Legacy” to be? Remember, just sitting around waiting to die is B – O – R – I – N – G!!! Make a difference in someone’s life while you still can!!!

Have a good day, and be safe…

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…#NaBloPoMo – Selfies…Yay or Nay?

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I really do NOT like taking selfies. Except for one picture from my preschool years, I’ve never liked my pictures. I have a big nose, chubby cheeks and a crooked mouth.  Most photos highlight these characteristics – and selfies, usually taken from too high or too low an angle, in a bad light, etc, make it even worse!!!

Now, on a positive note; I DO like my eyes. They are my best feature. However, I took a selfie of just my eyes once, and it just looked creepy!!!

Bottom line, I guess, is I am just not created to be photographed. I am ok with this; because I am a kind, compassionate person. I am a great friend. Wow!!! Just realized I’m a cliché, and happy about it!!!

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…Keeping It Real…

Today, I’m feeling really human. I HATE when that happens, don’t you? I still have the faith, & resolve from previous post – just nothing “super” about how I feel today. They say patience is a virtue – never been one of MY stronger ones. So, I decided to share myself with you all – that always makes me feel better. I appreciate ALL the support from both those I know, personally; AND those I don’t. I know every post isn’t golden; but if I connect with ONE person, it’s a better day for us all, really. I’m not quite sure HOW it works; but I’m a believer that one person CAN change the world. Now, the catch is, it can be positive or negative. Look at the horrific effect Hitler had. On the flip-side, check out the effect Mother Theresa, & Princess Diana had. Each was an individual that just took the talents they were born with, & parlayed them into something that went global. All BEFORE Facebook, Twitter, etc. It was the choices they made EVERY day when they got up. No super powers were involved. It was choices made in their hearts. I am choosing positive today, how about you? Have a great day, & be safe…

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…Full-Speed Ahead… (written 4/15/15)

I just Googled the phrase, “Damn the torpedoes, full-speed ahead”…American Civil War – Battle of Mobile Bay; a seemingly pivotal victory, coupled with the capture of Atlanta, of the North over the South. Also, a boost for Abraham Lincoln, being re-elected 3 months later. Just thought I would throw in a little tidbit of history. I was originally going to apologize for my lack of knowledge of where the phrase came from. Sometimes, I forget about Google. By the way, it was said by Rear Admiral David G Farragut, & the statement HAS been altered; but the meaning hasn’t changed – just the specifics of the situation. Which brings me to the purpose of this particular post. I’m having a health issue, right now, that I can’t just take a pill for, & have it go away; & it’s really trying my patience. Yesterday, I was whiny, frustrated, & just beside myself with worry about things I honestly have NO control over. In the last 24 hours, I have strengthened my faith, & resolve & now I say, “Damn the torpedoes, full-speed ahead”. I’m going to focus on what I CAN do – ie-maybe getting my blog posted daily? Also, some other projects I wasn’t able to focus my brain on fully. Just because I can’t be on my feet my usual 9+ hours; it does NOT mean I still can’t accomplish things that matter. I know my needs will be taken care of, differently than normal; but still taken care of. I do think about this kind of stuff a lot, anyway; but until you’re forced into, you don’t know what you’re made of. You get to see if you can “walk the walk, & not just talk the talk”. How do you handle when your “world” gets shaken up & out of your control? Have a good day, & be safe…

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…Living Life in “Damage Control”…

Do you ever have seasons in your life where you feel like all you do is apologize for your actions? It doesn’t happen often; but when I do it – I DO NOT play around. As a recovering rage-aholic, my mouth still gets away from me, sometimes. All you can do is apologize, & wait it out. At times, I don’t “wait it out” well, either. I still try to “fix it”; which is really just another accident, waiting to happen. At my previous job, I would actually keep a piece of duct tape on my name badge to remind me to keep my mouth shut; & at current job, used to just grab a roll off the shelf & set it beside me. Now, I just think “duct tape” really loudly in my head. The worst part about it, however, is that immediate, empowering feel good – right before the bottom falls out, & you get that nauseating, “oh crap” feeling. It ALWAYS comes; & whether you’re right or wrong – you have to take responsibility for it; & very rarely is it good timing. Then comes the “damage control”. You don’t want to just “suck up”; that only makes it worse – & if you cannot apologize from your heart, your best bet is to just keep your mouth shut. Truth, a lot of times, that’s best for the moment. However, you do NOT want to hold on to the anger – it will consume you, & take longer for situation to be rectified. I know this has been a little rambly & random – but remember, that is the essence that is me…ha, ha!!! Have a good day, & be safe…

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…Pettiness…

As I go through my daily life, I am basically surrounded by adults. Not everyone can “adult”, though. I am finding, the older I get, I tolerate pettiness less and less; in others AND myself. When I realize I am being petty, whether professionally or privately, I try to move myself away from the “petty” view. Sometimes, I have to physically remove myself from the area; regroup, and go back with a new mindset. When I’m tired, am at my MOST vulnerable. It doesn’t always work; and sometimes, I have to go back and do damage control, and apologize profusely!!! Yet, another one of those “human” traits I find myself cursed with. How do you handle pettiness in yourself, and others? Have a good day, and be safe…

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…Investments…

I have been thinking about this for over 2 weeks, now. rolling around my head – over & over – ha, ha!!! Most people, I believe, when they hear the word, immediately think of stocks. The investments I’m talking about are In yourself & others, & the time you commit to this. I used to think of others, first. My needs were way “down the food chain”, so to speak. I learned, the hard way, how backwards this is. If you don’t invest in yourself, & your needs, first – you have nothing to give to others. Kind of like starting a garden to eat healthier, & giving it ALL away; while kind-hearted, you’re left with nothing to eat, yourself. Also, I’m not saying in a narcissistic way. Yet ANOTHER way to balance your life. Ah, the struggle is real. Sometimes, I really wish I could clone myself. Not realistic, I know. I sit down everyday with a notebook I carry with me, & write out a to-do list. Most of the time, it has WAY more than I can ever accomplish. This used to bother me. Now, if I get half of it done, I feel accomplished. sometimes, I have gotten over 3/4 – SCORE!!! It all goes back to the investments of my time – needs, & wants, & other things are on the list. sometimes, you even have to break down & determine which ARE needs vs wants. Oy, again with the BALANCE!!! I DO fine-tune & tweak throughout the day, also. The less I have to waste my VALUABLE time trying to figure out what I’m doing, the better. This enables me to increase my investments. This did not happen overnight. Again, more of the last 23 years of progress. Right now, am sitting in a local coffee shop with about 8 projects sitting here with me. I do, sometimes, get overwhelmed; but that’s when I incorporate the “15 Minute” increment practice. It DOES help with my productivity, also. But, that’s for another time – ha, ha!!! The bottom-line of this entire post is to decide what you’re going to invest yourself in. I challenge you to really take a personal inventory, & fine-tune & tweak your own investment priorities. Have a good day, & be safe…

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…One Person’s Perspective… (written 3/3/15)

As a cashier, the beginning of the month brings fresh, new/old challenges. There ARE GOING to be lines, WHEREVER you go. Whether the fastest cashier, or the slowest, they ARE doing the best they can to give you the best customer service they are able to, at any given moment. Now, that being said, please keep in mind you are dealing with fellow HUMAN BEINGS!!! We are ALL blessed with good days & bad days; they’re not always going to be good or bad at the same time, however. Keep in mind, that while fast may seem the number one priority; friendly REALLY is. Also, even the fastest cashier can only go as fast as the slowest customer. Add to the fact, that for some customers, this is their ONLY opportunity to connect with other people for the week, or sometimes the month. Think about how much faster your own life is going these days. Are you taking the time to connect with people, other than yourself or family for a whole week, or month!!! I know to some people it sounds like heaven; but do it month after month, etc; it WILL get lonely. I try to keep this in mind, both as a cashier, & a customer. Honestly, sometimes as I clock in, I take a deep breath & remind myself “I can do this”. It is a challenge, but I truly DO love what I do. Most of the cashiers I talk to DO love what they do, too. It’s a chosen profession for a lot of my co-workers. True, for some, it is a stop til they get to their true passion, or even know what they want to really do with their lives. Bottom line, please keep in mind we’re ALL in this TOGETHER; & we can either make it a positive experience, or a nightmare. Let’s remember each other, & make it the BEST we possibly can. Thank you for your time. Have a good day, & be safe…

JusT SpInnIng PlaTes…Responsibility…

Tackling another one of the “biggies”. This one took me a REALLY long time to grasp – I wasn’t required to be responsible for my own actions until I met some people that helped me require it for them, AND myself. I’m not really complaining about my life before I was 30, it was great for the most part. I just wasn’t “living life to the fullest”. Flying by the seat of your pants is great for awhile – but when you crash, you hit HARD!!! I crashed, & kind of burned – but, let me tell you – it’s been one heck of a climb. I am by no means done yet, though. I’m sharing all these tidbits of wisdom as we strive for them, together. I AM an expert on the climb, & the rock slide, & the climb, & the avalanche, & the climb, & the plateau; did I mention the climb??! Ha, ha!!! Being responsible is so much more than being places on time, etc. You have to LIVE it – it’s a part of your TOTAL being; & it DOES begin with yourself. It’s in the way you see yourself in the mirror – ie- “Is what I see what I really want to project?” I’m not talking just hair & makeup, & clothes – it’s in your attitude. It’s being true to yourself; not necessarily how you feel about yourself on any given day – that can fluctuate too much. It’s also in your body language – if you’re having a bad day, it IS ok. Just don’t stay there. Acknowledge it to your safe circle of friends. Journal about it if you get a chance. That is being responsible – being honest with others, & yourself. You obviously shouldn’t share it with the public, if that’s what your job is; or any other “unsafe” people. That’s another aspect – sharing yourself “appropriately” – based on your own personal, “How-it-makes-you-feel-inside”, standards. Being responsible isn’t necessarily just “following the rules”, either. I get caught up in this one, a lot. I’m in NO WAY condoning you DO NOT follow the rules. It’s knowing when you just have to, & suck it up. Like at your job – sometimes you’re going to HAVE to. If you can’t, or won’t compromise yourself – maybe it’s time to move on. Yet ANOTHER aspect of being responsible – unless you started the company, you came in on THEIR terms – they have all the power. It sucks – this was yet, ANOTHER, hard lesson for me. I’m proud to say I have been at my current job 10 & 1/2 years – the longest job of my life. I do have my moments – I push the envelope – & been darn lucky a couple of times. But, what you see is what you get with me – & when I screw up, I’m usually the first one to tell you about it. I live life in “damage control”, ALOT!!! A MAJOR part of being responsible – did I mention “the climb”??! What sort of responsibility “battles” have you had, or still have? Remember, “the struggle is real”…have a good day, & be safe…